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Fertility Counselling
If you're trying to conceive and it's not happening, you already know how isolating and exhausting this can be. Every month feels like waiting for news that never comes. Every pregnancy announcement stings. Every well-meaning question about when you're having kids feels like a punch to the gut.
You might be dealing with failed IVF cycles, unexplained infertility, recurrent miscarriages, or secondary infertility while everyone assumes you should just be grateful for the child you already have. You might be navigating the endless hospital appointments, the invasive procedures, the constant hope and disappointment.
And on top of all that? You're probably trying to hold it together at work, in your relationship, around friends and family who don't understand why you can't "just relax" or "stop trying so hard."
What You Might Be Feeling
Grief and loss Even if you've never held a baby, you're grieving the future you imagined, the family you planned, the person you thought you'd be by now.
Anger and resentment At your body for not cooperating. At other people's easy pregnancies. At the unfairness of it all.
Anxiety and obsession Tracking everything, researching constantly, unable to think about anything else, terrified of making the wrong choice or missing your chance.
Shame and inadequacy Feeling broken, less than, like you're failing at something that should be natural.
Relationship strain You and your partner might be grieving differently, wanting different things, struggling to talk about it without fighting.
Isolation Pulling away from friends with kids, avoiding social events, feeling like no one gets it.
How Fertility Counselling Can Help
Counselling for infertility isn't about staying positive or relaxing (you've heard that enough). It's about making space for everything you're actually feeling without judgment.
In our sessions, we'll work together to:
Process the grief and loss Because this is real loss, even if the world doesn't always recognise it. You're allowed to grieve what hasn't happened yet.
Manage the anxiety and uncertainty Using CBT techniques to help you cope with the constant waiting, the medical decisions, the not-knowing.
Navigate difficult decisions When to keep trying, when to stop, whether to pursue further treatment, how to talk to your partner about next steps.
Handle other people What to say (or not say) to family, friends, and colleagues.
How to protect your emotional energy.
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Reconnect with yourself You're more than this struggle. We'll work on finding parts of your life that still feel meaningful while you're in this difficult season.
Communicate with your partner If you're doing this together, we'll explore how to support each other when you're both hurting.
Make sense of your thoughts and feelings Understanding why you feel the way you do, and finding practical ways to cope that actually work for you.
Therapy for IVF Stress in Scotland
IVF is physically, emotionally, and financially draining. The two-week waits, the medication side effects, the invasive procedures, the constant hope and crushing disappointment - it takes a toll.
Whether you're preparing for your first cycle, in the middle of treatment, dealing with a failed cycle, or trying to decide whether to continue, therapy can give you a space to be honest about how hard this is.
Counselling for Secondary Infertility
Struggling to have a second child comes with its own unique pain. People assume you should be grateful for the child you have (and you are), but that doesn't make this any less heartbreaking. For me, the desperation for a second child was far more than for a first. The guilt, the confusion about whether to keep trying, the worry about your existing child - it's all valid, and it all deserves support.
Support After Miscarriage in North Lanarkshire
Miscarriage is devastating, and it's made worse by people minimising it or expecting you to "get over it" quickly. If you've experienced pregnancy loss - whether early or late, one time or multiple times - you deserve proper support.
Counselling after miscarriage can help you process the grief, cope with the fear of trying again, and find a way through the pain that feels right for you.
How We'll Work Together
Sessions are 50 minutes, available in person in Wishaw or Motherwell, or online anywhere in the UK.
I use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), which means we'll look at how your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are connected, and find practical strategies that help you cope with what you're going through right now.
I've been through my own infertility journey, so I understand the medical terminology, the treatment protocols, the emotional rollercoaster. You won't have to explain everything from scratch or worry about being judged.
This isn't about fixing you or forcing positivity. It's about giving you the support you need to get through one of the hardest experiences of your life.
If you're ready to talk to someone who gets it, I'm here.
